Sometimes we can get advice from the wrong people.
Sure, these same people may be wizards when it comes to Engineering, Fantasy Football, or building a shed. But maybe that doesn't extend to learning how to dance.
It's safe to say that guys who can't dance will probably have some negative things to say about your new hobby. Here are some examples.
"You’ve got way too much stuff to do, like online gaming."
The reality: You make time for things that are important to you. If there's nothing wrong with a little late night first person gaming, then there's nothing wrong with improving your social dancing game either.
"The funky chicken has never let you down before."
The reality: There's a big difference between what you can do on the dance floor, and what you should do. Weddings, reunions, and office parties are equal parts opportunity and risk - taking the time to make a positive impression will have lasting dividends.
"While everyone is busy “ballrooming” you can get a great spot at the bar. Score!"
The reality: People have been standing at bars for years with very little to show for it other than a higher than usual alcohol budget.
"Last time I checked, you’re not a grandpa."
The reality: People of all ages - from kids, teens, adults, and retirees have found benefits to ballroom dance lessons.
"Why spend money on dance lessons when you can just buy more cologne?"
The reality: Cologne is great, but it's not like it's a social super power or anything. Dancing absolutely upgrades your position in the grand social hierarchy, and unless this is the Old West in the 1800's, more Old Spice won't do much to make you stand out.
"Point me to the keg and I’ll be a dancer in 15 minutes."
The reality: The best thing about drunken dancing is that you are numb to what it looks like. Those around you, unfortunately, are not.
"Girls would rather dance by themselves, or with their friends, than with a guy. Trust me I’m an expert."
The reality: You wouldn't want a felon as your accountant, and you probably don't want this guy giving you dating/dancing advice.
"I just like to watch and make fun of people."
The reality: This is code for "I'm afraid of expanding my comfort zone" and "I still live at home with my folks".
"Because dance-losers like Gene Kelly, John Travolta, and Patrick Swayze never got any chicks."
The reality: All of these actors were exceptional at what they did, but just ask any of their fans what dancing did for their careers.
"Dancing is for sissy weirdos."
The reality: As a guy, it's much easier to make fun of something that to try it out.
When something is new or different, there's a little tinge of fear involved. Whether it is some new clothing fad, or adding butter to your coffee - it's normal to pump the brakes on something you are still evaluating.
Even dancing.
Regardless of the positive byproducts of dance lessons, it's still new, different, and a little weird for those in your inner circle. Making it less weird could be as simple as inviting them in for a lesson, or letting them see your progress.
Or just understanding that not everyone can be as cool as you.