First steps can be incredibly tough.
Whether it's bungee jumping, a blind date, or a dentist's appointment - there are plenty of things you can say to talk yourself out things.
Taking a dance lesson is no different.
There are plenty of reasons to learn how to dance, but unfortunately, it only takes one phrase to cancel them all out.
Potential Dancers Disappear When They Say These 9 Things
1. “ I’m Too Busy”
The Story Behind It: Life will constantly be there, and that will usually leave you with no available time for yourself. Since dance lessons isn't a regular part of your life yet, they are much more difficult to justify making time for.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: The reason why you need to take dance lessons, is probably because your life is really hectic.
Bottom Line: Trust your instincts. Part of you scheduled that lesson for a reason.
2. “I Don’t Have a Dance Partner”
The Story Behind It: Many would-be Arthur Murray students put off their dance lessons because they don't have a partner to dance with.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: You don't need a partner to learn how to become a ballroom and latin dancer. In fact, you learn faster, get better health and physical benefits, and stay on track when you work one on one with an Arthur Murray professional.
Bottom Line: Need some more ideas to overcome this one? Check out this article:
Do You Need A Partner To Learn Ballroom Dancing?
3. “Everyone Will Watch Me”
The Story Behind It: Whenever you're new, in any environment, it's normal to feel like everyone is watching you. It doesn't matter if it's going to the gym, or taking a dance lesson.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: The truth is, the only person who is going to be watching you is your teacher. All the other students will be wrapped up in their own dance lessons.
Bottom Line: Believe it or not, after a few weeks, you'll be upset if people aren't watching you dance.
4. “I'm Not Ready"
The Story Behind It: One common mistake people make is thinking that they need some sort of dance experience before they even come in for their first dance lesson.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: Nothing could be further from the truth. If you needed dance experience to have a dance lesson, then Arthur Murray would have shut down in 1913.
Bottom Line: Not feeling ready is just a combination of nerves and excitement. All of that changes once you've had your first complimentary dance lesson.
5. “I don’t know what to expect”
The Story Behind It: There are plenty of misconceptions of what it will be like to actually walk in and learn how to dance. People have conjured up everything from cigarette smoking Russian ballet teacher-types, to dancing shirtless (a la Dancing With The Stars).
Why It Shouldn't Matter: Keep your shirt on. The backbone of the Arthur Murray method is to make learning how to dance fun, quick, and easy. Non-dancers are in perfect hands.
Bottom Line: For more ideas on what to expect on your first lesson, we recommend:
6. “I Will Embarrass Myself”
The Truth Behind It: Unfortunately, it's very common for people to eliminate the idea of taking a dance lesson, for fear of being difficult to teach, or funny to look at.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: Kathryn Murray once said, "The hardest step you'll ever take is the first one through the door." No one walks in for the first time dancing like they do on TV.
Bottom Line: For more ideas about on how new dancers make progress, check out:
Dance Progress Explained: The Arthur Murray Curve of Learning
7. “My Partner is Better Than Me”
The Truth Behind It: Many potential Arthur Murray dancers see themselves as a hopeless case because their significant other took some dance classes in the past.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: Partner dancing has two distinct roles - leader and follower. The leader is the offense, the follower is the defense. Leaders learn to move with clarity, followers learn to respond with sensitivity. It is impossible for your partner to be better than you are, unless your partner is planning on dancing your role.
Bottom Line: Need some more ammunition for this subject? We recommend:
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8. “I Have Two Left Feet”
The Story Behind It: Potential dance students commonly fall victim to this age-old assessment. In many ways, it suggests that they weren't born with the ability to learn how to dance.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: "Two left feet" is just a non-dancer's way of saying that they aren't comfortable on the dance floor. The reality is that no one is comfortable when they begin any hobby, dancing or basket-weaving.
Bottom Line: For more on having two left feet, check out this popular blog post:
For Everyone With Two Left Feet: A Poem
9. “People Like Me Don't Need Dance Lessons”
The Truth Behind It: There are plenty of people that are perfectly happy with the social skills they currently possess, and don't really see any practical need for learning to dance.
Why It Shouldn't Matter: Anyone with half an ego will rationalize why they don't need something that they can't already do. Treat learning how to dance like the stock market, when all your friends are investing in commodities like beer and small talk, you can set yourself apart by investing in dance futures.
Bottom Line: Need some more convincing on this one? Try these:
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Are you ready to give dancing a try? Whether you're wanting to learn with someone special or just for yourself, you can start with a free private lesson to see why Arthur Murray has been the leader in ballroom dance instruction since 1912.
